Normalising self-awareness and accountability

Today we are going back to the basics so that you can understand why self awareness and self development is nothing without accountability. In other words, you’ve got to be real with yourself.

Let’s start…

The subconscious mind makes up 90% of your brain. This means 90% of the time you are functioning unconsciously. Since your belief system resides in your subconscious, if you have an unhealthy belief system then you will unconsciously choose unhealthy things for yourself. For example, the belief, “I am not worthy of a high paid job” will keep you applying for low paid jobs.

An unhealthy belief system leads to a victim state of mind. To come out of this and change how we view ourselves, we need to take full responsibility and stay accountable. There is no shame in admitting we have gone wrong somewhere. Shame is the illusion that to be wrong or honest means you are less than. This comes from our ego.

Our ego can prevent us from coming out of the victim narrative. This is because our egos job is to keep us safe. If we, for example, have a an unhealthy belief about ourselves which says: “I am not important”, then our ego may drive us towards a career which generates a lot of respect, so that you feel important. For example, you may work in a praiseworthy sector like politics or medicine. Etc. You may not necessarily enjoy these realms but you will learn to excel in these departments and maybe even learn to enjoy them because it brings you a sense of importance and therefore, it makes you feel safe. Really then, what you are enjoying is the validation.

However, this is you, operating from a fear based place … an inauthentic place. A place which operates from the ego and usually, the fight or flight response.

This is why in order to really come out of the victim mentality and change ourselves, and transform, and be free, be better, we have got to really face ourselves and be accountable and honest. Even if it is to our own selves. Within the safe four corners of our home. Whatever the case, this is a personal responsibility.

When you’re a child, a trauma is just what feels life threatening to your nervous system. This can be something as big as domestic violence or as small as being left out in groups at school, or being silenced by older siblings. Etc. When you’re a child it is easy to feel threatened and unsafe. Especially if you harboured a lot of sensitivity as a child. This is how limiting beliefs and insecurities (which make up your belief system) are born, and then your ego takes over with the intention to keep you safe, leading you to chase things which will stop making you feel, “not important”, “not good enough”, or whatever beliefs and insecurities it is that you have developed. 

So it isn’t enough to use one tool, such as affirmations, to get out of the victim mentality. To reprogramme and recondition, to get out of the victim and survivor state on a mind-body level, it isn’t enough to feel better. You have to do better for sustainable results. To ensure that when you’re triggered you don’t de-programme or regress too much in your growth. 

What you’ve got to do is be ready to take your power back properly, but the first step is self awareness and honesty. What beliefs do you really harbour about yourself that are hindering? What insecurities?

You have to be very very conscious of your unconscious thoughts. Sometimes it won’t directly come up as, “I’m not enough”. Sometimes it could come up as the desire to do nothing, or too much. Remember that the language of the heart is emotions, so you’ve got to pay attention to how you feel and interpret that feeling. Sometimes, you may get thoughts which come up as, “I don’t want to get out of bed today”, or “I wish I didn’t have to do this task”. All low vibrational thoughts and feelings are rooted in limiting beliefs and insecurities which reside in your belief system … which reside in your subconscious.

So it’s time to get really conscious about your unconscious thoughts with the intention of not returning back to them. This is the first step to taking your power back, even before reprogramming … is to know the old self well enough in her thought and feeling processes to be able to make the radical decision to not go back.

Becoming conscious is necessary. Becoming conscious is the stepping stone out of the victim state of being.

With love & compassion,
Salina.