Recently, I had a wonderful training workshop for the staff at An-naba Networking. I showed these wonderful women how to identify if their feminine is wounded. Some signs are: co-dependency, over-sensitivity, lack of willpower and more. We also discussed what The Feminine actually is and how it differs from femininity. We conceptualised The Feminine as an innate energy, and identified which qualities really are in line with your womanhood, versus what traits are popularised and romanticsed to serve a patriarchal society. It was a healing session as usual, for sure.
Thank you to the staff at An-naba for this opportunity!
If you would like to book me for your next workshop or you will like to book a one off session to analyse your feminine, do not hesitate to get in contact with me here.
Inspiration is freeing emotions. Desperation is suppressing them. Make sure you read the quote above first before continuing on reading the below. Otherwise what I am about to explain won’t reach your comprehension entirely. This is one of my advanced teachings.
Inspiration is freeing your emotions. Desperation is suppressing them. When you’ve spent your day sleeping or in essence, not using your time wisely, (this includes over browsing the internet, not showing up on time, over dieting or even overworking), deep inside you are avoiding your emotions of not feeling good enough, not feeling important, not feeling safe etc.
Not feeling safe is actually a big limiting belief embedded into the complex infrastructures of our belief system. We’re so afraid of failures that we will throw ourselves into a pit head first because we’d rather destruct ourselves than let other people or things destruct us. Even if it’s just the idea of it. Such as the idea of being replaced at work, or the idea of being let down if you ask for a raise, or the idea that if you confront someone about hurting you that they will hurt you badly. We will stop ourselves from living healthy, successful and productive lives and therefore sidetrack from making healthy decisions that take us forward, and we will instead choose self deprecation because the idea of these scenarios make us feel unsafe and we will rather be in control of that. I am mentioning multiple examples because different people are triggered by different things, because everyone has different limiting beliefs, or different doses of the same ones.
What people don’t understand though is that before expecting success and results you’ve got to hover above the idea of failure. You dont necessarily have to succumb to it or believe it’ll happen. You actually ensure it will NOT happen. Every successful person and even successful companies do this. In project management there’s a segment called the risk assessment. You’ve got to analyse all the things that could go wrong in your project with the intention to prevent it. I.E.: “hover above the idea of failure”. You are not preparing for failure here. You are making sure success is going to happen because you are exercising all your skillset and resources to prevent every possible risk, but should any road blocks manifest, you won’t be caught off guard.
It doesn’t sound scary at all when you think about it. Because essentially by avoiding risks you are ensuring success. So then why do people not get to this stage at all and opt for sitting in their sorrows or distractions?
Because contrary to popular belief trauma is whatever the nervous system perceives as dangerous. Danger is subjective. So because many of us have not healed from our childhood outlook, danger could look like anything from, “I am afraid people will think I’m stupid and a nobody” to, “I am afraid of so and so abandoning me, please don’t leave me”. For most of us, our body is stuck as the 7 year old who grew up in a violent home or whose parents told them to be quiet because children don’t speak at the dinner table. Yes, that is right, trauma does not have to be anything dramatic per se. Trauma is just what your nervous system perceives as dangerous and for a 7 year old, being shut down could feel as violent as being beaten up. Therefore for most of us, our bodies are stuck in the child perspective. And so when we are feeling unsafe because we perceive a “threat”, such as being disliked, dealing with confrontation, holding bullies accountable etc or just the idea of these things our child perspective interprets these events as limiting beliefs such as: you are not safe, you are not good enough, you are not important etc, and then our nervous system will turn on and either respond with FIGHT (desperation 1: overworking, overeating, overthinking) or FLIGHT(desperation 2: avoiding, wasting time, taking too long to do a task etc). Of course, all of the above will take place within seconds.
To avoid these limiting beliefs and the overwhelming emotions that come with it, such as covert or apparent anxiety to hyper frustration and fear, our decisions that follow via our fight or flight response suppresses these emotions. Sometimes, we misunderstand them for inspiration, when in actuality they are exercised from a very desperate place. For example: “I’m going to diet because I need to be healthy” is often really masked as: “I am going to diet because I’m afraid to feel ugly, unlikeable or unloveable”. You are suppressing these emotions and they store in your body as self loathing and other bad energy, which is why many people won’t actually see results of weight loss at all until these emotions are released. Inspiration on the other hand will look something like: “I’m consciously choosing what I am putting in my body because I know I deserve to feel good, but I’m not going to feel guilty about eating a cake today because I know I’m more than deserving of it and I love myself”. You are freeing your body from the limiting beliefs, anxiety, longing, frustration, hopelessness etc. You aren’t in desperation mode. You are in inspiration mode. Another way to say it is, you aren’t in child perspective or survival mode, you are in adult perspective and moving forward mode.
This is why personal growth is crucial, otherwise you’ll always get in your own way. There’s nothing that inspires growth like becoming the woman or person you dream to be and knowing you can reach this potential if you have the correct guidance and tools. You’ll do all the healing work required to meet this person, experience this person and be this person. Because she is the version of you that’ll get you out of bed to own your day. She’s the one that’ll take you from child perspective, to adult perspective. She’s the one that’ll make you understand that you are safe and secure no matter what and whole and complete on your own.
There is no complete growth without healing and there is no better way to heal than to grow up from childhood to womanhood in a safe, inspirational and joyous way. My three principles for mentoring/coaching are exactly that: Growth, Womanhood and Healing. It’s the best formula I’ve come up with to keep the stretching of your emotional and mental library fun, light and most of all purposeful.
Start consciously analysing from what perspective you are making a destructive decision or a decision that seemingly is healthy, but in actuality is unhealthy. Is it from a child perspective, or an adult perspective? Do you feel safe, or do you feel unsafe?
To work out what your subconscious limiting beliefs are you can book a one off session with me here. To overcome these beliefs and release bad energy, you can contact me to do the 4 week full programme for £280.00 here.
One thing I’ve learned is, hope never runs out. There’s always an answer for everything. For every problem there’s a solution. For every hardship there is ease. For every achievement there’s room for more growth. You can never stay stagnant, stuck, or the like. Even situations you leave alone naturally get undone by itself, have you not noticed? How one day you wake up and realise that person or thing no longer bothers you? Or you suddenly feel inspired to forgive someone from 10 years ago? People miraculously cured by death threatening diseases? Or some stranger you met for the first time gives you a life saving advice you never know you needed, or wanted?
I’ve made my purpose about digging up what these answers are. Because I’m certain hope never runs out. There’s an answer for everything, so, hope never runs out.
One meaning my name holds is “moon”. And I guess I like to show up when it’s dark in people’s lives, even in my own. Any issue anyone has, through the permission of God, I feel I can fix. I’m not hard on people because I think they’re stupid. I’m hard on people because if you tell me you can’t do something and you’re losing hope and then I turn around to you to say, “You know what, you’re absolutely right, you absolutely cannot do this so you have a right to feel hopeless” – what kind of mentor will that make me? There’s no problem that is not fixable. No situation is immovable. No illness that can’t be cured. If we think any way else, we don’t know God.
My job makes your job much easier and makes my growth impeccable, praise be to God. And your growth can be impeccable too. I see where I was and I see a part of myself in some of you. I see where I am and I see myself in all of you. You can achieve great things. You can become a great person. A person you’ll be content taking with you to your grave.
Whether you can afford mentoring or not isn’t the question. The question is, why have you stopped investing in yourself? I am not talking about money. Money is the second step. The first step is hope. Do not give up on the woman you know you can be.
My advice is: never stop hoping. Never stop searching. Never stop believing in yourself. Answers don’t stop coming because God’s abundance is limitless.
Do you want to receive a personalised self care plan to ensure you make the next month about you and achieve all your goals for the year in a high standard feminine fashion? Come along to this group session where additionally we’ll work on overcoming your immediate blocks, and answering any important questions you need answering.
Email me on salina.ahmed52@gmail.com or whatsApp me on 07434846802 to book your space and for more information. It’s going to be epic!
I started the new year blessed enough to lead a wonderful workshop organised by Aaina Women’s Group. A community organisation that literally does everything under the sun for the women in their community. (Literally).
From dealing with women who are in abusive relationships to dealing with women who are unable to speak English or get by alone, Aaina managed to create a safe space for women in the community who are secure in knowing they will always have a helping hand. It is most definitely a worthy cause to invest your time and money in.
Aaina were kind enough to invite me to lead a self empowerment workshop and I have to say, it was one of the best I’ve ever done.
We spoke about the power of the subconscious mind, hidden insecurities, energy science, followed by me analysing some of the attendee’s energy makeup, and ending the workshop on meditation and conversation.
The best thing is, I will be returning to Aaina for a second workshop on February 5th. The ladies requested something more interactive. So do keep an eye out for an even more transformative workshop. It’s going to be amazing!
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