Inspiration is freeing emotions. Desperation is suppressing them. Make sure you read the quote above first before continuing on reading the below. Otherwise what I am about to explain won’t reach your comprehension entirely. This is one of my advanced teachings.
Inspiration is freeing your emotions. Desperation is suppressing them. When you’ve spent your day sleeping or in essence, not using your time wisely, (this includes over browsing the internet, not showing up on time, over dieting or even overworking), deep inside you are avoiding your emotions of not feeling good enough, not feeling important, not feeling safe etc.
Not feeling safe is actually a big limiting belief embedded into the complex infrastructures of our belief system. We’re so afraid of failures that we will throw ourselves into a pit head first because we’d rather destruct ourselves than let other people or things destruct us. Even if it’s just the idea of it. Such as the idea of being replaced at work, or the idea of being let down if you ask for a raise, or the idea that if you confront someone about hurting you that they will hurt you badly. We will stop ourselves from living healthy, successful and productive lives and therefore sidetrack from making healthy decisions that take us forward, and we will instead choose self deprecation because the idea of these scenarios make us feel unsafe and we will rather be in control of that. I am mentioning multiple examples because different people are triggered by different things, because everyone has different limiting beliefs, or different doses of the same ones.
What people don’t understand though is that before expecting success and results you’ve got to hover above the idea of failure. You dont necessarily have to succumb to it or believe it’ll happen. You actually ensure it will NOT happen. Every successful person and even successful companies do this. In project management there’s a segment called the risk assessment. You’ve got to analyse all the things that could go wrong in your project with the intention to prevent it. I.E.: “hover above the idea of failure”. You are not preparing for failure here. You are making sure success is going to happen because you are exercising all your skillset and resources to prevent every possible risk, but should any road blocks manifest, you won’t be caught off guard.
It doesn’t sound scary at all when you think about it. Because essentially by avoiding risks you are ensuring success. So then why do people not get to this stage at all and opt for sitting in their sorrows or distractions?
Because contrary to popular belief trauma is whatever the nervous system perceives as dangerous. Danger is subjective. So because many of us have not healed from our childhood outlook, danger could look like anything from, “I am afraid people will think I’m stupid and a nobody” to, “I am afraid of so and so abandoning me, please don’t leave me”. For most of us, our body is stuck as the 7 year old who grew up in a violent home or whose parents told them to be quiet because children don’t speak at the dinner table. Yes, that is right, trauma does not have to be anything dramatic per se. Trauma is just what your nervous system perceives as dangerous and for a 7 year old, being shut down could feel as violent as being beaten up. Therefore for most of us, our bodies are stuck in the child perspective. And so when we are feeling unsafe because we perceive a “threat”, such as being disliked, dealing with confrontation, holding bullies accountable etc or just the idea of these things our child perspective interprets these events as limiting beliefs such as: you are not safe, you are not good enough, you are not important etc, and then our nervous system will turn on and either respond with FIGHT (desperation 1: overworking, overeating, overthinking) or FLIGHT(desperation 2: avoiding, wasting time, taking too long to do a task etc). Of course, all of the above will take place within seconds.
To avoid these limiting beliefs and the overwhelming emotions that come with it, such as covert or apparent anxiety to hyper frustration and fear, our decisions that follow via our fight or flight response suppresses these emotions. Sometimes, we misunderstand them for inspiration, when in actuality they are exercised from a very desperate place. For example: “I’m going to diet because I need to be healthy” is often really masked as: “I am going to diet because I’m afraid to feel ugly, unlikeable or unloveable”. You are suppressing these emotions and they store in your body as self loathing and other bad energy, which is why many people won’t actually see results of weight loss at all until these emotions are released. Inspiration on the other hand will look something like: “I’m consciously choosing what I am putting in my body because I know I deserve to feel good, but I’m not going to feel guilty about eating a cake today because I know I’m more than deserving of it and I love myself”. You are freeing your body from the limiting beliefs, anxiety, longing, frustration, hopelessness etc. You aren’t in desperation mode. You are in inspiration mode. Another way to say it is, you aren’t in child perspective or survival mode, you are in adult perspective and moving forward mode.
This is why personal growth is crucial, otherwise you’ll always get in your own way. There’s nothing that inspires growth like becoming the woman or person you dream to be and knowing you can reach this potential if you have the correct guidance and tools. You’ll do all the healing work required to meet this person, experience this person and be this person. Because she is the version of you that’ll get you out of bed to own your day. She’s the one that’ll take you from child perspective, to adult perspective. She’s the one that’ll make you understand that you are safe and secure no matter what and whole and complete on your own.
There is no complete growth without healing and there is no better way to heal than to grow up from childhood to womanhood in a safe, inspirational and joyous way. My three principles for mentoring/coaching are exactly that: Growth, Womanhood and Healing. It’s the best formula I’ve come up with to keep the stretching of your emotional and mental library fun, light and most of all purposeful.
Start consciously analysing from what perspective you are making a destructive decision or a decision that seemingly is healthy, but in actuality is unhealthy. Is it from a child perspective, or an adult perspective? Do you feel safe, or do you feel unsafe?
To work out what your subconscious limiting beliefs are you can book a one off session with me here. To overcome these beliefs and release bad energy, you can contact me to do the 4 week full programme for £280.00 here.
Good luck.
S, Xx.
Professional Female 