I believe that we as humans, and especially as women are in a perpetual state of transformation within, we go through certain life experiences, usually derogatory and traumatic, that force our insides to change dramatically. Inevitably this also changes our outward circumstances too. In essence, what I am trying to philosophise is that we attract what we are, and today we have not only psychological but also scientific studies to illustrate this.
So what we are on the inside, we will draw towards us, without a doubt. What we are on the inside is made up of our insecurities and limiting beliefs (about ourselves). What we believe about ourselves will show up in our lives over and over again. We can never, ever, outperform our self esteem.
So if we feel unworthy, we will draw towards us situations and circumstances that do not compliment our worth. Such as people who do not realise our worth. Or the versions of people who profit from our lack of self esteem. This is an example of an insecurity. Something which pertains more toward a limiting belief would be, for instance, if we felt unskilled in our profession or undeserving of it, then we would draw toward us failures, or people, such as senior members in our workplace, who doubt our abilities. Do you see where I am going with this? On a logical spectrum, if you feel unskilled or undeserving in the field of your work then you may rush a project (or on the other hand be overly meticulous) or show up late–perpetually–to work, which of course in turn will bring about failures, such as achieving satisfactory results and not exceeding milestones, or missing deadlines and meetings. This is logical but does not seem so, since it is all happening subconsciously.
But let’s talk about energy for a minute; let’s talk about science.
On an energetic spectrum, you may just simply attract the parts in people who doubt your abilities. A similar effect plays out when you carry within you shame and guilt – when you’re giving off the vibe that you’re ashamed and in deep guilt, on an energetic level, you may attract the part in people who want to capitalise on that. This is why I always encourage to feel remorse for the wrong you’ve done, take accountability, and move forward with self forgiveness. But that’s another topic for another day.
Just think about any situations in your life you either enabled or allowed to continue because you didn’t feel worthy enough to stand up for yourself. If you think about it simply, in most cases, everyone and everything is you pushed out. This is possibly one of THE most transformative statements you will ever hear because it will offer you radical clarity and a sense of emotional affluence you need to upgrade your experiences. And this starts with YOU.
If you are carrying anxieties about being abandoned, then this may in actuality happen, because you may accumulate just the amount of fear necessary to be manipulated by, subconsciously, which will then propel you to create situations that are overwhelming for both you and the other person(s) involved. However, again, this example is on a logical or psychological spectrum. Energetically, if you are giving off the vibe (the vibrations which are carried in the electric and magnetic circumference that surrounds every person. Another topic for another day) that you are not worthy enough, you may then attract the versions of people that can treat you like you aren’t worthy enough. You may feel as though, for example, that people constantly take advantage of you.
In other words, a lot of the situations in our lives are but self fulfilling prophecies.
To summarise then, this is how it works. On a logical capacity, since your insecurities and limiting beliefs are buried away into your subconscious mind, you will unknowingly create situations which reinforce your insecurities or limiting beliefs. When you operate from a negative belief system, you get negative results. You simply don’t realise that you are operating from there because it’s subconscious. You are making choices that you aren’t conscious about and it’s fascinating how the thoughts which we aren’t consciously thinking about can control our mobility, feelings and decisions. So, it is not until we change what’s inside of us, our external experiences manifest differently. Interestingly, there are spiritual literature from all across the globe that suggest this notion as well, including in the Holy Qur’an.
“Allah does not change a people´s condition unless they change what is in themselves” –
Furthermore, on an energetic realm, the signatures your insecurities and limiting beliefs transfer onto your energy circumference is what gives off the “vibe”. I believe that people are able to interpret this at an emotional level, i.e. they are able to FEEL this, and make a subconscious decision as a result. Which is why sometimes we feel as though we are going through the exact same experiences, only with different characters involved. And so the solution is to build awareness surrounding our limiting beliefs and insecurities with the intentions of healing them.
I hope you enjoyed this post. I intend to go deeper into this topic in a future post. Please subscribe to my newsletters if you would like to stay updated. You can do so here: https://professionalfemale.com/subscribe/
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